“Frequent Blogging” and Acknowledging Introversion | 19 June 2017

Hello Again (Finally)!

I know, I know… I said in my last post that I was planning to blog a little more often… and I know that was over six months ago… but hey! Cut me some slack! It’s been quite a year for me so far.

Just like the previous post, I am currently sitting on my Nanna’s spare bed in Victoria… this time, it’s permanent! I made the decision to migrate south this Winter, and begin a new chapter of my life. Oh, that reminds me! Last time I wrote a small segment set one year in the future. I mentioned all the things that I wanted from my life in 2017, and living in Melbourne was one of them! Let’s have a look at the summary of this segment again.

Bio – Tim Combridge, December 2017 (12 goals)

 

 

  • Turn 21
  • Move to Melbourne in Q1 2017
  • Studying Bachelor of Computer Science
  • Better budget – better financial state
  • Living independently (away from family)
  • Exercise schedule
  • Food preparation – healthier eating
  • Lost 15kg
  • Socialising more
  • Writing online blog – building better habits
  • Learning Mandarin
  • More familiar with HTML, Swift, and Python

So far, I have moved to Melbourne, I have a much better budget, I have started exercising more frequently, and I prepare at least 50% of my food for the week ahead of time so that I can control my portions and the content of what I eat. That means that I have achieved four of twelve of my goals. I’m pretty happy with this!

We All Change

Something that I’m learning more and more throughout life is that the most important thing to keep in mind if you want to be more successful in life is to make plans and to know where you want to go in advance. The second most important thing is to recognise that humans change throughout life, and you need to adapt your plans to accommodate these changes. For example, I had a goal to begin studying a Bachelor of Computer Science this year. This is still something I’d love to do, but I no longer think it is plausible for this year because I have a more immediate plan to purchase my first home. If I am to take out a home loan, I need to have no debt or minimal debt, and studying a Bachelor (even if I continued working full time) would mean I have debt against my name, that could play against me when I am prepared to take out a home loan.

I’ve reviewed my personal goals, and have listed them below.

Bio – Tim Combridge, December 2017 – Revision II (11 goals)

  • Turn 21
  • Studying Bachelor of Computer Science
  • Better budget – better financial state
  • On track 
  • Healthier eating – cook more, cover more meals
  • Under 100kg (Currently just under 120kg)
  • Networking more
  • Online presence (blog and Snapchat at this point, Podcast later)
  • Learning Mandarin
  • More familiar with HTML, CSS, JavaScript, and Salesforce Apex
  • Salesforce Certifications – Sales Cloud Consultant, Salesforce Advanced Administrator

My focus has changed from generic IT to CRM and database management, specifically Salesforce. I’ve been using it for just under a year and, as cliche as it sounds, it has changed the course of my life. From the learning experience of migrating multiple databases with different information to the culture of Salesforce and their Ohana beliefs, I’ve really enjoyed my experiences so far and have decided to hone in my skills. This is why a few of my goals have changed with regards to that.
You’ll also notice I changed (or, made more specific) a few of the other goals, working to create SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Trackable).

Am I Still Human?

Okay, now we’re getting real. There are times I wonder about my ability to interact with other people, and if I actually enjoy it. I moved to Melbourne halfway through May, and have been in a near solitude ever since. From having a number of friends within a few kilometres to living with Nanna and knowing a small handful of other people. I use an app called Life Cycle to track my daily movements and activities, and I noticed a significant drop in the “Saw friends” activity the month after I moved. I’ve spent a lot more time reading than I normally do, and I’ve spent a lot more time sitting and thinking. I often think about meeting new people and going out. Part of me wonders if I even enjoy being around other people, but all of me now knows that I need to learn to enjoy it.

I want to become better at networking in my professional life. This is one skill I’ve struggled with in the workplace. I’ve loved the people I work with on a daily basis, and have made many long time friends, but I struggle putting myself out there and meeting new people in a networking setting. I’ve been to multiple events, and always catch myself hiding in the corner glancing at a sign, then looking over to another, then back to the first.

Finally, there’s the whole topic of companionship. When I was in the earlier years of middle and high school, I always had a romantic interest. Often times, I obsessed over these romantic interests. It created a lot of unnecessary complexity in my life that I only later realised wasn’t great in the long run. I let my grades become effected, I let other good friendships get run down, and I eventually anchored my self-worth on what these people thought of me or how they treated me. As you can imagine, the last few years of my life I have been single and not too bothered by it. I recall the earlier years and who I was then and compare it to who I am now and what it means to be single. I enjoy it. I enjoy working long hours and planning my life fully around what I want to do. I enjoy planning my future around what I would like to achieve and making decisions based on no one but myself. It is a very selfish way of living, but I am enjoying it. Occasionally I’ll catch myself wanting to meet someone, but a voice in my head shuts it down quickly by pointing out the ridiculous freedom to do anything that I currently experience.

These are a few of the things that I do or think that make me question if I am a “normal human”. I enjoy being alone, I enjoy prioritising myself and planning around myself, I struggle when it comes to meeting new people, and I struggle keeping my energy for long periods of time in large or new groups of people.

In my partial solitude over the last few weeks I have thought heavily on this and decided that it isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it is healthy to acknowledge it. I acknowledge that I am an introvert, and that this is very different to the extroverted “class clown” that I was in my youth. I acknowledge that this being introverted is not bad, but different. I acknowledge that there will be a few people that I hold close to me in life, and enjoy spending time with people one-on-one as opposed to being in a group setting.

The biggest thing I’ve taken away from this is that my introversion is not something to feel bad about or be angry at myself over, but definitely something to acknowledge and understand. Perhaps this is one of the reasons I haven’t written since my first post at the end of last year – I misunderstood what was going on. I confused introversion for lack of confidence. Now that I understand this, I can plan ahead. I can plan to isolate a small number of people in a large group of professionals, I can organise my time to spend more one-on-one time with close friends, and most importantly I can remember that it is better to give new things a go than to be limited by my introversion. Introduce myself to others who use Salesforce, crack a joke amongst a group of friends, and just say hello to the girl across the room! Life is short. Experience it, and enjoy yourself while doing so.